Im not really looking for advice with this, just getting something off my chest to the world. Consider suggesting that she talk about these possibilities with her psychiatrist and therapist (if she has one). Things we fine for few months then i noticed our sex life taking the down hill road. Over the past year I dated someone that was unbalanced and going through a significant life transition. Ive tried to think of ways to break it off that wont make her hate herself, like saying Im gay or having friends pose as drug dealers and freak her out by having them threaten me when shes around. The ex shouldnt even be in the equation. I started to feel distant from her and that i dont want to be intimat to her. I see her every weekend, during the week I keep to myself play video games, homework, go over to a friends for a beer. If signs point to your partner, it's time to make a change. Every time we go out she freaks out. I feel for all of you guys! The act of moving things out can be difficult to deal with. Am I taking the wrong approach? I feel as much like a caretaker as I do a boyfriend. Right now, we value the future of our child more than anything else. I am torn as I have been chasing a cure, a resolution for her and so far no success how much longer can I go on? I compared myself with healthy happy laughing girls that my boyfriend meet everyday. Those are the moments you should be focusing on, that is the person that youre in a relationship with. We had went there to plan for an engagement, but all she had for us was a rejection, simply because I don't own a house. She keeps saying this like Im not a good person & I dont think Ill ever stop feeling this way I have given her reassurance, saying Im here for it through the good and bad, but fuck it seems like Im talking to a brick wall sometimes. she undergoing medications and therapy but nothing could help her. of each person. Like you rejecting the last possible form of understanding and connection. During the relationship, she refused to be medicated or to be accompanied by a psychologist. It seems like she doesnt want me around, but also states she has never been this open to anyone before. When I asked her if she wanted to go get some food, ice cream the mall,she said no for so many reasons. She says its her medication but shes been on it since the age of 15 and shes 45 now, Im 42 I knew I had a little depression here and there and a bit of self destructive I dont want to go to work kinda lazy crap going on. yesterday she said dating isnt working for either of us, the things that we need to change are things that cant chnange. Her issues didnt matter to me as she is a very good person, but I didnt see the whole picture. You have to start working on it, push things forward. I really wish GoodTherapy.org would have some people, professionals or people who had past experiences in line with all the above comments and have them offer some advice and hope for everyone here. She relies on me sitting down and talking sense to her, but I too feel like a caretaker, an older sibling or even a parent sometimes. Me being there, and supporting this whole time didnt count for anything. I told her that i love her and i would never leave her, i forgave her cuz she lied to me, i told her that if i was with right now i would give her a hug and a kiss. The text is most likely a part of an image, then. If things aren't going well, if there's a lack trust, or if you don't feel secure, then it makes sense that anxiety might become an issue. Theres a lot of pain in watching someone else you love give up on their own life, be unhappy about decisions they made and wonder why the relationship is falling apart when theyve manipulated your emotions by hurting u, breaking up with you so many times and not having anything positive to say on any problem you or they have,together or singularly. She wont tell me whats going on. We had a lot of fun together and while she did have some mental health issues, it never caused too many problems. I almost lost my identity and values. Karen S., a business executive in her late 20s, had been with her boyfriend eight months when she fell into a funk. Day in or out, shell leave me broken again, I know it, just dont know when. I m still jobless for more than 2yrs thinking about her problems all the time.i can marry her after getting a good job.i feel like my life is hell and but I am not selfish too. She was not like this when we first met. Smoking and drinking! Method 1 Addressing It Right Now 1 Avoid reacting immediately. Cmon guys you know the drill. I hope you will take another one and find some support for yourself. I did every single thing that you guys have written here. I really don't know the best way if breaking it to her and I don't wanna do anything that I'll regret 3 28 28 comments Add a Comment AutoModerator 8 mo. And it started to bring me down even more. Developing a strong therapeutic relationship with a clinician will afford you a much-needed opportunity to focus on yourself. i fell as if i cant help her, im not good enough to make her happy although i try so hard and its making me doubt myself more and more. Youve asked some really important questions about yourself: Am I codependent? Whats my issue? What steps can or should I take? These questions are as important as they are complicated. Ive got a life, I want to be happy, to love, I am strong, I am bold, and I cant seem like to help her anymore, she doesnt want to, shes just getting away from me, Im losing her. I tried hard to keep the relationship going, but I was alone in that battle. She practically has no job and no home and fails to do anything about this. The more. Wow. Atlast I hate the word LOVE with cry. I started to seek too much attention, because it felt finally a lille bit good to have this attention. You are helpful to them by being there when they need you. Copyright 2007 - 2023 GoodTherapy, LLC. I dont know if it is a good thing to avoid that, I am almost sure it isnt. But she just cries on the phone and says shes fine. Thats not me! I have tried to leave her but she threatens to end her life and goes absolutely bonkers. You mention that your girlfriends medication does not seem to be helping her. My partner's negativity gets me down A happy, optimistic man is brought down by the relentless negativity of his partner. I am not sure if Im still with her for love, for the codependency that has definitely developed or simply because I have been doing this so long I dont know any different, I have almost the exact same problem. It drives me nuts when she sleeps all day. Medication treats symptoms, but it doesnt address all of the problems that often underlie depression. I feel really lost. This could mean adding individual and/or group therapy to her treatment regimen, trying a new therapeutic approach, or making a change to her medication. WE ARE ALL A PRODUCT OF OUR ENVIRONMENTS. This is the person who wants what you have - your charm, your wit, your success, your intelligence, your job, your partner, whatever - and because they don't think they . Imagine if you stay another couple years, get married, have children, then that person does the unspeakable after that? I wish you answers. To me all of these modern mental issues we see are a result of too much free time, too many choices and the conveniences we enjoy. I know thats going to be the final solution to all this, but is there anything anyone else could recommend? If you would like to talk to a therapist or counselor, you can use our site to locate one in your area. I feel im depressed, asking myself was actually our sexlife good becuase she was drinking, and that the person im with now has no interest in sex at all? Im in a LDR myself too although I have never met her IRL. I always stopped everything to help her, to stay hours remind her how she is incredible. So I tried communicating a little more and making plans. From then onwards,my girl friend got suffering from depression slowly.but I was not knowing that and she also didnt share anything to me. I feel for you all. I can know no one would have got solution. Ive never been so stressed and sad and angry my whole life. She is also currently in therapy. We were engaged. Be found at the exact moment they are searching. If you need them. Offer to help her move large pieces of furniture and boxes to her new space. Long distance relationships where you rarely/never meet in person are not really the same thing. I beat my depression, i became happy again but after a year with my gf and trying to care for her depression i can feel it creeping back again. "Relationships characterized by constant conflict, fighting, and lack of forgiveness are a recipe for disaster," Opperman says. Let she feels that you are proud of her. From hair trends to relationship advice, our daily newsletter has everything you need to sound like a person whos on TikTok, even if you arent. And dwelling in the state of permanent not-understanding-what-is-going-on is no option. Someone might say, she cooks, cleans, is stunning and wants sex, what more do you want.. If you're being dragged down by your partner, it could be due to cheating, or emotional abuse, or a lack of support. You say that they dont chose to become depressed no they dont but they can choose to help themselves. Listen, really try to listen like she was your best friend not girlfriend. A key sign of depression from relationships is low self-esteem because your partner puts you down or makes you feel bad about yourself. deep thoughts in my head And they just keep dragging me down there down so deep Dragging me down so deep Dragging me down so deep Dragging me down so. You are in a relationship, you two must have had a reason to be with eachother. ), It can also really take you by surprise. I dont know if you know Jesus, and sorry if I sound like a religious nutcase now but Im really trying to help you. i cant let her go and i know she cant let me go either. past experiences? Youve managed to take care of your girlfriend and remain connected enough to yourself to come up with these questions. Depression is a serious issue that is very difficult to understand. Life is too short to waste time and energy on depressed people. does anyone have any pointers or ideas? Good looking, good healthy cooking. Its hell and theres a lot of doubt in your thoughts like is it my fault, Im I the same, can I not make someone happy, am i insensitive. Assistir Sheffield Utd X Tottenham - Ao Vivo Grtis HD sem travar, sem anncios. I hope you found your way out and ability to stay out. After a year of being together i started to talk about how bad our sexlife and that it has changed, her reply was always that im comparing this to things i read on the internet and that what we had before is considered honeymoon period. Step by step. It drove me to breakdown myself. I would answer, I just want to feel free and safe. We can all get through this. I want her to be happy, and I hope you guys are luckier than me. See what I. My suggestion is start having a quality of life before it is to late , love is wonderful when it is growing but it can be hell if it is one sided. She also will fail in it, many times, probably hurting you, but she will go on. "Unhealthy relationships can literally make you feel drained of energy. 3. Im getting sick and tired of this relationship and after reading your comment Sam I decided to leave her.. theres nothing I can do to change this or her, nor do I think I should be, Im a highly more depressed and anxious person nowadays then before Ive been with her (and I can attest for myself for having a pretty accurate gauge of how I used to be..) She has to take control of her own mind if she ever wants to get better. Do something romantic. Sign up and Get Listed. Trying to fix it on yours own either no optional. Today she told me shes ditching all her meds and is just gonna do weed therapy. She struggles to make friends and has isolated herself from the world. Stress can cause all sorts of problems. She doesnt want to leave me either, because if she does she says she will kill herself. So the question, as you insightfully pose, is where do you go from here? Be willing to provide physical assistance. I would stand everything for her, but she doesnt seem to care, and it kills me from the inside. Ive been with my girlfriend for ten years, starting in college. It sounds like you have been a tremendous source of love, strength, and support for your girlfriend in her battle with depression. Should I leave her be and wait for her to consult me? Your love will develop as you both learn (with help) how to manage your feelings and youll both be closer having supported one another through this difficult process. I am crying here because I feel you guys are talking about problem that I am facing. All I got is she is just a drama queen, there wasnt any problems to become sad. Im so hurt lately, and she doesnt give it a mind, and she doesnt barely talk to me on the late days. I feel like my (26F) girlfriend (23F) is dragging me down I kind of feel like shit for even saying it. Help me drag the camping gear down the hill. The burden on caretakers is significant, and there is great therapeutic value in realizing you are not alone. She might miss you. Second, if nothing changes over time let it go. Tristen, Armand, sounds like your girlfriends have real life boyfriends too. Ive been there, multiple times. im so torn and she suggested friends with benefits because we still show each other we care and shit by being friends at school and stuff, then casual hook ups and hanging out, basically dating. To go cold turkey off 3 different anti depressants can someone die by doing that? I get it, youre both on the brink every second that goes by and it feels like thats all there is and ever will be. When you've had too much on your plate for a long time, behaviors in your partner that would normally be slightly irritating can feel like major disruptions to your peace of mind. Maybe she doesnt want to tell you how much she wants you to be with her because she doesnt want to appear needy. Still, its all your decision. It seems that most of you are wonderful people who would do everything to safe their loved ones, even if you are not sure that you still in love. I hope my thoughts are helpful in any way, She lives 200 km away from me and I'm seeing shapes behind the curtain. It almost feels as though she is in a better mood when I am down! We talked (argued) about the lack of sex and how distant we are and she said that she doesnt feel any of these feelings, and that sometimes we doesnt feel comfortable thinking about sex. So both of you can benefit. It was me rationalising my emotions. Shes 30, Im 26, she never had a boyfriend, nor had sex or drugs nor anything. Her aggression and fights are only there to tell you that she needs help, and help in this case is outside you two therapy, friends, new experiences. She has a comfortable home life but is in a constant state of conflict with her parents because of how she is treated.. Namely them trying to get her out on her own after graduating and trying to find a job. Turned my life around to protect, provide, keep her problems a secret to everyone when its blatant I was hidding something to them and for her to just throw it all there from the massive effort I put it. And do not try to help, just try to understand. You create your own reality. She experienced child sexual trauma and suffers from depression and ptsd. It's not fun for either party, and it's definitely a sign that things aren't entirely healthy. And at the current time, I feel stretched thin with everything going around me since everyone needs me there for them, along with being there for myself. its comforting to know that other couples go through the same things. If you need help finding a therapist, you are welcome to call us. Hugs. I started to be rude and aggressive. We have to get our sh#t together or be ok with being alone and broke or God forbid settle for the girl were all here talking about. I tried the whole counselling route n psychiatrist with her. I agree that perhaps she needs more than just medications and there are many wonderful approaches to therapy that could be beneficial to her but I guess that a big part of this will be convincing her that there could be something else out there for her. About me and my girlfriend! Welcome to Tissue Issues, an advice column from comedian Ash . You wish your sex like was more active, but hate being the one to initiate. Can we all agree that that sounds pretty amazing, and most definitely "good? Now dont get me wrong, I get shes depressed and I feel for her, but I used to never have outbursts in my relationship period, and by now, 8 years in, the only way to make her stop taking all of her aggressive-depression(not that shed get violent, but yell on the most absurd things)/anxieties on me is to stoop down to her level and shout back, which then makes me feel like a jerk, she (almost) never say sorry, and for everytime she yells at me, somehow at the end I have to apologize or shell frown at me forever (claiming everything is fine, but obviously is it) But of course this isn't the case in an unhealthy relationship. It was a no-win situation for me. Read the book co-dependent no more. The reason I feel it's dragging me down is that my girlfriend's mother has always been extremely disrespectful to me. Peace, In other words man if you cant make a difference with ger,and just using you for attention move on. Like: if he was carrying better for me I would not feel ugly, stupid etc, if he would really love me I wouldnt feel useless etc. Or maybe it's because your partner is jealous, or mean, or absent. If you have trouble finding a professional in your area, dont be discouragedit may mean youll have better luck doing a Google search or asking for a referral from a trusted health professional, such as your doctor. One day I thought that she wanted to seek attention by saying that so I confronted her. Like, a supermodel could walk by and your partner wouldn't bat at an eye. Even if youve had bad experiences with the Christian belief in the past, I suggest you to just try something. She will text or call me out of blue and tell how much she appreciates my patience with her. My Friend Is Draining Me! 11 months ago I started dating my girlfriend and everything was amazing. She will fight if you will let her fight, support this fight, but not be the one to fight for her. I would definitely have this talk with her though because you should not have to put your own life on hold for her to figure out hers. Every time I look at her pics, I am immediately in love again by seeing her smile but in person all I am thinking of is an exit strategy despite all the caring in the world. she is unable to talk to you to achieve closeness because of all she had to deal with in her head so she compensate this lack of connection by wanting more sex (sex is expression of the highest level of acceptance and intimacy with other person after all and you dont have to talk during this action) and when you refuse, because of the depressed state and has low self-esteem that accompanies it, she treats it like rejection. 2. I have seen suicide attempts, aggression and erratic and forceful ways of keeping me locked in the house every time I threaten to leave. That takes incredible patience and compassion, but it can also take a toll on you. It may be subtle behaviors such as never showing an interest in you or socializing with your friends, or it could be outright insults that damage your sense of self-worth. And thats when shit will get unbearable for the two of you. Im having similar issues as many of you aforementioned. it takes a lot of courag and resolve to stick around and be supportive to your partner and youve done that.kudos to that.please see that you have been strong and supportive for so long so you cannot think you will break.be confident and seek better outlets.therapy can help in a major way as I have seen.all the best. So are yours always casting concerned looks? She shut me off completely and gave me halfhearted reply whenever I talk to her. Having your sh$t together isnt exactly essential for survival anymore. Please fill out all required fields to submit your message. It's to the point where her depression is dragging me down with her, though I would never say that to her. That left me with a perspective of loosing someone I really love and also left space for me to think about it in safe environment. She clearly doesnt love you like one should love another person. He has on multiple occasions told me that he only feels happy, safe and secure around me, and that if it wasnt for me he wouldve killed himself long ago. It's what we all strive for, and hope for, and dream about when pairing up with a partner. And it was bad enough that i was married at one time and my Ex wife cheated on me thinking that i was going to spend the rest of my life with her at the time. Gently but strongly. We've been together for about a year now. But every day she is more and more far away from me. I need to know, I was engaged to get married to her but we called it off. I like my lectures because I feel like I have room to breathe since there is no internet connection in the lecture theaters. I just cant take the angry outbursts then the crying then the woe is me attitude over every tiny event. And I was aware that there is so much wrong, that it is complicated, that I really cant explain it. We stopped having sex last year because of her trauma. It is your life too. She posts lots of hurtful things on her networks, she gets only and doesnt talk to me, shes alway leaving to something, she doesnt seem to care about things Ive got to say, shes no longer responsive or interested and shes been pretending fun, she doesnt seem to care at all anymore, and when I openly say how this has been hurting me and how things changed drastically, she always blames her condition, that she is really depressed and in mood swings, but she no longer let me be closer, she no longer wants to talk. and the thing with sex: if you are curious and want to understand: I Feel Helpless! Once you are gone, she will find another enabler to take on her issues. Seeing the change in her every day life and general well-being has been nothing short of a complete shock to me. On my side my family is going through a very rough time and were worried about losing our home, Im going through a quarter-life crises where I dont know what I studied is the right thing for me, Im also really worried about my future because I dont know where Im heading in life. I envy all your girlfriends, because you acknoleged their pain.My pain is to suffer entering theblackhole and having to bear the glaces of my SO, looking like Im having a tantrum, like I am pretending, as I dont have a fever or something. a) Conversation It bothers me a lot and Ive done all I could to understand. She just dont know how to do this. Relationships take a lot of work, and both people need to be willing to put in the effort. But i will never get married again since it really has become very risky for many of us men that have been married the first time. Also, if her depression has lasted for years with no improvement, it might be time to look at changing the treatment plan. She looks for a bit of comfort, wants some tea/cuddles and sex. Let her take the step and compliment her if she completes it. This often happens when too much stress causes hyperarousal, which can upset the balance between sleep and wakefulness, according to the National Sleep Foundation. She thinks I must be sleeping with someone else & she is not the object of my desire. You might also want to look for a caretakers support group. I love her a lot, I just miss her old caring cuddly self! His moods got worse, we have to do whatever he wants to do, I am too scared to loose him but Ive already lost myself, I dont recognise myself anymore I was once this girl who didnt need anyone, kept everything to herself, let medication deal with my emotions now I sit and cry myself to sleep and feel so hopeless. Ive dealt with people like that and let me tell you its never easy cuz there gonna try and bring you down.I mean I too have anxiety but not to the point where I freak out or go completely insane. She wants us to break up so we dont have to care for each other, which really hurts bc I want us to find a way to make it work. Dear Shady, I found myself in a very similar situation. Hell even the break up process reinforces their behavior. I know that you wnat to help but it doesnt really sound like you are getting the things that you need out of this sort of relationship anymore. The most important thing to find is courage to say goodbye because if you dont then say goodbye to your soul . I am afraid that if I leave she will kill herself, she is completely obsessed with me and I cant escape. Go with her to therapist. I want so much to help her, but I feel like I have nothing else to give. For the potential cheating part, dont worry about it. I completely changed from confident cheeky fit guy to someones whose fat, very low self esteem and broken. She hates it when I get an attitude then why does she make me get into this attitude? Even she could not continue her studies and quit her studies.Its all because of she loves me to core and missing me much! Ask yourself if you truly want to continue in the relationship. And here's hoping you both can turn things around, and have a little more of that "good.". Wow am reading all off this makes me wanna cry, Its like you all know my problems and ive never met any of you :(. Trying to be a significant other when your partner has depression, anorexia, bulimia, addictions etc feels absolutely terrifying. A. I have been through many websites reading about relationship breakdowns when a partner is depressed and the most common thing is how the non depressed partner is feeling totally drained and feel their life has gone down hill leading them down the road to depression. 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